O.k., o.k. I know some people can be very dark and do some crazy, mean things. Even right here on the MM site.
I've heard more horrific stories from things that have happened on this site lately, than I could have ever imagined. I mean CRAZY stuff (and some CARAZEE people!).
Well, I've got a little different view of things. Indulge me for a minute.
You've heard it before. At least you may have heard it.
"Its not what happens TO you in life that truly matters; its how YOU RESPOND to what happens to you that truly defines your life"
You have heard that, haven't you? Well, if not, now you have :). And, I challenge you to consider the truth of it (even if you don't totally agree.)
"Why do crazy situations (and sometimes, crazy PEOPLE) show up in your life?"
Too many people respond to crazy, mean, deceitful, manipulative, controlling people by allowing distrust, bitterness, suspicion, etc., to develop inside of them. Then, you miss out on living your dreams and realizing the love and life you've always wanted.
Well, I've learned to process crazy (and even, very undesirable) situations in a way that benefits me.
You see, its not about THEM. Its about YOU. In my case, its about ME. Let me explain.
When crazy stuff happens in my life, I look at myself. Michael Murphy. Rather than allowing some kind of negative attitude to develop in me, I look at the person and get honest enough with myself to see if even a hint of what they've done (or darkness that they've exhibited) exists in ME.
By doing this with an honest and sincere, secure and self assured heart, I get better. I grow and mature into the person I truly do want to be.
A few years ago, when I was standing in front of several hundred people each week and speaking, I used to tell my audiences, 'Folks, life is not about 'him, her, them or they'. Its about YOU. In MY case, its about ME. Its about me growing, getting better, becoming the person I want to be and becoming the kind of person I want to attract in my life.
So, there you have. My take on things. Agree with me or not. At least consider what I've said. It works well for me. It keeps me happy and at peace with myself and others.
Cheers, Michael
I think we can all agree that there are different levels of crazy; sometimes how we react to others could be an in the moment response (an ah ha moment). There may not be time for self-reflection until after the moment has passed!
For example, if some crazy person amid a stint of rage comes after me with a bat with the intention of harming me, I will defend myself (not that this has happened). While the lady in me in this scenario would verbally say, “don’t hurt me,” the survivor in me would be like “this will not end well”...I may think, how did I get into this situation after I'm in a safe place.
For those who like to play mind games, that's a whole other baileywick. The minute I sense a hint of manipulation or lack of integrity, I simply remove myself from their presence. My quality of life is too valuable to leave in a crazy person's hands! I can't afford the time once I understand the negative place they are coming from. Fool me once, shame on them; fool me twice, shame on me.
Sass
Quoting michael_080
O.k., o.k. I know some people can be very dark and do some crazy, mean things. Even right here on the MM site.
I've heard more horrific stories from things that have happened on this site lately, than I could have ever imagined. I mean CRAZY stuff (and some CARAZEE people!).
Well, I've got a little different view of things. Indulge me for a minute.
You've heard it before. At least you may have heard it.
"Its not what happens TO you in life that truly matters; its how YOU RESPOND to what happens to you that truly defines your life"
You have heard that, haven't you? Well, if not, now you have :). And, I challenge you to consider the truth of it (even if you don't totally agree.)
"Why do crazy situations (and sometimes, crazy PEOPLE) show up in your life?"
Too many people respond to crazy, mean, deceitful, manipulative, controlling people by allowing distrust, bitterness, suspicion, etc., to develop inside of them. Then, you miss out on living your dreams and realizing the love and life you've always wanted.
Well, I've learned to process crazy (and even, very undesirable) situations in a way that benefits me.
You see, its not about THEM. Its about YOU. In my case, its about ME. Let me explain.
When crazy stuff happens in my life, I look at myself. Michael Murphy. Rather than allowing some kind of negative attitude to develop in me, I look at the person and get honest enough with myself to see if even a hint of what they've done (or darkness that they've exhibited) exists in ME.
By doing this with an honest and sincere, secure and self assured heart, I get better. I grow and mature into the person I truly do want to be.
A few years ago, when I was standing in front of several hundred people each week and speaking, I used to tell my audiences, 'Folks, life is not about 'him, her, them or they'. Its about YOU. In MY case, its about ME. Its about me growing, getting better, becoming the person I want to be and becoming the kind of person I want to attract in my life.
So, there you have. My take on things. Agree with me or not. At least consider what I've said. It works well for me. It keeps me happy and at peace with myself and others.
Cheers, Michael
I think we can all agree that there are different levels of crazy; sometimes how we react to others could be an in the moment response (an ah ha moment). There may not be time for self-reflection until after the moment has passed!
For example, if some crazy person amid a stint of rage comes after me with a bat with the intention of harming me, I will defend myself (not that this has happened). While the lady in me in this scenario would verbally say, “don’t hurt me,” the survivor in me would be like “this will not end well”...I may think, how did I get into this situation after I'm in a safe place.
For those who like to play mind games, that's a whole other baileywick. The minute I sense a hint of manipulation or lack of integrity, I simply remove myself from their presence. My quality of life is too valuable to leave in a crazy person's hands! I can't afford the time once I understand the negative place they are coming from. Fool me once, shame on them; fool me twice, shame on me.
All this time, CG, I've been reading your posts---and I failed to recognize how GD smart you are. Blame, blame, blame, shame on me. Thanks for this one, Conyers..... You often make the shortest contributions here---and yet your contributtions go the longest way........ Pat
Quoting Conyersguy
Michael,
I've told myself, and others online: That guy or girl was crazy, or mean (pick one) long before I came along, and they'll be crazy or mean long after I crossed their path. I just happened to be the one who stepped into their crosshairs that day. Don't let them ruin MY day. Easier said than done sometimes.
CG
Quoting Conyersguy
Michael,
I've told myself, and others online: That guy or girl was crazy, or mean (pick one) long before I came along, and they'll be crazy or mean long after I crossed their path. I just happened to be the one who stepped into their crosshairs that day. Don't let them ruin MY day. Easier said than done sometimes.
CG
All this time, CG, I've been reading your posts---and I failed to recognize how GD smart you are. Blame, blame, blame, shame on me. Thanks for this one, Conyers..... You often make the shortest contributions here---and yet your contributtions go the longest way........ Pat
I've told myself, and others online: That guy or girl was crazy, or mean (pick one) long before I came along, and they'll be crazy or mean long after I crossed their path. I just happened to be the one who stepped into their crosshairs that day. Don't let them ruin MY day. Easier said than done sometimes.
CG
Michael,
I've told myself, and others online: That guy or girl was crazy, or mean (pick one) long before I came along, and they'll be crazy or mean long after I crossed their path. I just happened to be the one who stepped into their crosshairs that day. Don't let them ruin MY day. Easier said than done sometimes.
